Last night I saw an old friend I haven't seen in a while. I think our lives have just caught up with us... me with having Jakob and renting a house with Ian, then starting the access course. Her with getting engaged moving into a flat with her fiance. She told me she had news.
I went round there with a couple of other friends I haven't seen in a while, and she confirmed what we had all guessed - she's pregnant! About 7 weeks apparently.
It sounds weird to say it but I'm worried about her. She's never really thought of pregnancy as a positive experience.. she loves babies! But not the pregnancy part. Her mum I believe has always told her how horrible and painful it is, that you have to be drugged up and it's the worst experience ever!
When I was pregnant she laughed at me doing my hypnobirthing and planning a home water birth. I know I'd never convince her to do any of that but I just wish I could make her see what a natural beautiful thing childbirth is!
What is it that Dr Grantly Dick Read (spelling?!) said... a women in a less medicalised country was giving birth. and... damn I've forgotten it.... but it was so inspiring... basically saying she didn't understand why childbirth would be painful.... because she hadn't been exposed to all these people badmouthing birth, turning into some sort of medical illness!!! argh makes me angry.. Let me find what he said..
ah this silly blog won't let me 'paste' - i will work it out later!!!!
Anyway my missions for this year:
-complete access course
-volunteer for domestic abuse charity
-sit in ante natal classes somewhere :)
-persuade an independant midwife to let me shadow her
-take an extra short course (e.g. counselling, massage etc) if finish the access in time :)
-apply for universities
-help my friend believe in herself, her baby and her body.
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